05.21.07
How to Bring Sex Toys into your Relationship
Are you totally into your partner, and want to involve sex toys into your relationship but are not sure how to bring it up? Well, this can be a very tricky subject and for some, and not easy at all to just talk about. Some people are too shy and others just plain uncomfortable. But if you want to try exploring the fantastic world of sex toys, and are way to nervous, then here are some hints and tips to get the conversation flowing.
- I know this is a pretty silly piece of advice, but don’t be shy. Well, try to be as least shy as possible. This is one of those big steps in life that is so much better once you’ve taken. And you will most likely not regret it. Try doing some research before you bring it up. Look at sex toy websites and magazines, and get informed on the toys you want to try. That way you can answer the obvious questions your partner will have.
- Start with beginners sex toys, or just the easy, small ones. Maybe a bullet vibrator and cock ring. Something discreet that will just open the door to your new hobby. You don’t want to throw your nervous partner into something uncomfortable. Comfort is one of the most important parts of exploring sex toys.
- Maybe don’t talk about it. If you want to be sexy about it, try buying a sex toy, and surprising your partner with it. Come home Friday after work, and give them a gift nicely wrapped. They might blush and wonder what is up when they open it, but just tell them you thought maybe tonight the two of you could try it out! This way you skip the embarrassing conversation, and it will be easier on both of you having a toy already there. If you are going to show up with a new toy, make sure you also purchase lubrication. Lube is very important to use with any sex toy. It relieves the friction the toy may create, and will allow for easy insertion.
- If you are not sure which toy is appropriate for you and your partner, maybe just come home with a bottle of lube itself. Then suggest the pair of you spend some time later that night looking at sex toys on the Internet and choosing which one to try together. Make sure you gather a list of websites you will look at first. If you are not organized, the plan will just become awkward and fall through.
- If you do want to talk about it first, then there are ways of bringing it up. Wait until bed time and bring it up then. Just start by asking, “so.. what do you think about trying out sex toys?” Or something along those lines. Like I mentioned earlier, just make sure you are informed, because your partner will react with questions, and you should be prepared to answer them!
- Try leaving tiny hints around the house as a cute way of bringing it up. Star out by leaving a bottle of flavored massage oil next to the computer to hint you want a sexy evening. Then maybe a bottle of lube next to the phone, and later print or cut out a picture of a clit stimulator and place it on your partners pillow. That is a sure fire way to hint that you also want to use sex toys!
However you choose to bring up the subject of sex toys, make sure you are respectful to your partners needs and concerns. I mentioned earlier that comfort is one of the most important aspects of the sex toy experience, but number one aspect is safety. Always use lubrication with your sex toys, and proper cleaning too. Use a sex toy cleaner to wipe them clean before and after each use, and make sure to note if your sex toy is waterproof or not. Use common sense, and don’t try anything you don’t want to. Start out small, and work your way up. There is no rush, just sit back and enjoy the new and exciting world of adult toys! Good Luck!
