05.01.07
How to improve your sex life
As many couples grow older, or even younger couples who have been together a while, the creativity in bed can be somewhat lost. Having a romantic night out, then coming home to do the dirty deed can be quite awkward if the pair don’t really know how to turn each other on anymore. Well, it happens to the best of us, and sometimes we just need a little advice to get us going once more.
Romance is defiantly an important part in improving a couples’ sex life. If there is no cute inside jokes, or naughty grins in public, there is no will to share your most intimate moments later in the bedroom. Romantic gestures don’t have to be big, don’t forget the small things in life are usually what count most. So things like bringing home flowers for no reason can be a huge turn on for a woman. No matter who she is, 99.9% of women like flowers! Having that said, 99.9% of women will also melt like butter if her man is being especially sweet. Make her dinner when she is most tired, then draw her a bath. Maybe offer to share the bath with her. Why not get a waterproof clitoral vibrator to play with in the tub? If you do decide to try sex toys, a big turn on is using it on the other person. So for instance, the man puts the finger-vibrator on, and arouses the woman with it.
This day and age, people work to much. Everybody is always tired, and this can severely limit a sexual relationship. Instead of saving sex for the weekend, try it on a week-night. It might make you feel a little naughtier knowing you should be sleeping. But of course, don’t loose too much sleep! Maybe start by planning a night, and spend all week thinking about what you will do to your partner. Think about using sex toys, and what they feel like. Think about it until you have gotten yourself turned on, but don’t do anything about it, wait for your night! That way you will build the suspense, and when the night comes, you will be like, “finally!”, and ‘finally’ is a good feeling! Try some new positions: maybe doggy-style, face to face on a chair, even in another room besides the bedroom. Be creative, try laying down together back to front, like “spooning”, on bent over the kitchen table. In the shower (be careful, don’t slip!), or even better, rent a porno movie and watch it together. Think about the things the actors are doing, and try them on your partner. But going into an adult store to rent a pornographic film may be a bit to much for some people. In that case, you can buy videos on the Internet, or even find porn itself on the Internet. There are tons of choices for everyones tastes.
On that note, sex toys, of course, are a big help. There are so many kinds, from tiny personal vibrator sex toys to erotic strap-on sex toys, and everything in between. Now, this topic can be tricky to bring into conversation with a partner, some people just don’t talk about it. So instead of asking their views on using sex toys, just buy some! Again, buying over the Internet relieves the shyness of going to a store to purchase something. Imagine the surprise when you come home bearing a multi-speed bullet vibrator for your partner. In conversation, they might play it off as if they are not interested in sex toys. But if you buy and one they actually have it in front of them, chances are they know you are serious, and they will be pretty excited to give it a try. Start small, and try different things to find out what each of you like. Oh, and don’t forget the lube! Lube is a must with any rubber/jelly/latex sex toys. It makes insertion 100% easier and more comfortable, or if no insertion is planned, it will help slip around the surface better to increase pleasure. Lube on its own is even good with fingers to reach an orgasm faster and with more ease.
Now when the spark is fading, it’s not only up to the man to be romantic and bring home the sex toys, women have an equal part to play. Turning on your man is a good way of turning yourself on too. Everyone loves being sexy, and your man loves it when you are too. Try some cute and kinky lingerie; vibrating panties, crotchless panties, a nice corset, a garter-belt and stockings, sexy high heels, a see-through teddy, a see-through jumpsuit. Have a look around, pick something you like, and chances are you will floor him. Now that you have your outfit, practice dancing to some sexy music, and when he is least expecting it, strut your stuff! He will be pleasantly surprised! And that is a good way of getting things going. Him seeing you dancing will most likely give him an urge to be wild with you! Don’t forget your sex toys also! They go hand in hand with lingerie. You masturbating with sex toys while wearing sexy lingerie is a good way of getting him to beg for you! So bring on the lingerie, and bring on the sex toys!
Food is also a different thing to try. Licking chocolate sauce or whipped cream off each other, or sharing chocolate covered strawberries. This can be cute and lead to wild things as well. Try playing a sex game; there are some where you roll the dice to see what action you must do to what body part. These dice can be purchased at most sex toys stores and online. This can be erotic and give you some ideas. If you have children, send them to the babysitters and try being loud during sex. This can be quite the release! For more ideas on sexy things you can do for each other, why not visit your local sex toys store, or take a peak at sex toys stores online. TheAdultToyShoppe.com is a great store specializing in many different, unique and interesting sex toys and sex toys related novelties!
Overall, improving your sex life is down to the pair of you. Talk with each other, or don’t talk and just surprise each other! Most of the time, your partner is up for anything you are. Get some kinky ideas from some kinky films, and try them together, or set up the video camera and make your own film! Watch it together to remind each other what it’s like, and that should get you two going! Why not try role-playing? If you are not sure what to do, try being a doctor and a patient, or a hero and a damsel in distress! Don’t be shy, you are sexy, and your partner wants you! Sex toys are the perfect addition to any relationship, so don’t forget about them. Good Luck!
